We don’t really know anything about my siblings mothers because of the records that the orphanages kept. We know that Fulmaya and Nisha’s mothers were both young and unmarried. We also know that Hannah and Tami’s mother’s died, which is part of why they were put up for adoption. We actually know more about Juan’s mother than any of the others. We know that she was unmarried, young, and already had another son. But even though we would probably never be able to find them, even if we wanted to, I will be forever grateful for the fact that they chose life for their child.
Category Archives: Adoption
My parents always raised me to be pro-life and to me that meant that abortion was wrong, but I never thought to take it to another level. But my parents not only taught me to be pro-life they also lived out what they believed. See, my family has completed 5 adoptions, from 4 different countries, in the past 10 years. I am now the oldest of 8 children and have 2 biological brothers, 2 sisters from India, 1 sister from Haiti, 1 sister from China, and 1 brother from Guatemala.
Until recently I did not realize how much God had been watching over all of my siblings, even before they were born. See in India, China, Guatemala, and Haiti it is legal for mothers to get abortions if they want them. In India and China it is almost encouraged by some if you know you are going to have a girl. There is already an article on the Abolitionist Society’s blog about abortion in China and if you haven’t read it you should check it out. But I’ll explain more about abortion in India. See, more girls are aborted each year, in India, than boys because when a girl gets married their family is required to present her husband with a dowry. But so many families in India can not afford a dowry because they are poor and so it is easier to abort their daughter. Because so many girls have been aborted there is an imbalance in the ratio of boys to girls. In order to help lessen this imbalance the Indian government has actually made it illegal for any woman to get an ultrasound so that they can not abort their child based on gender. While this has not stopped women from finding out the gender of their baby it has started to make a difference.
Also, looking back over my families different adoptions it is obvious that God had picked each child to be part of our family. First, we were actually in the process of adopting a boy from Haiti at the same time that Tami was in the process of being adopted by another family. Well, the boy we were adopting had sickle-cell anemia and ended up dying before we could complete the process. It just happened to work out that the family who had been adopting Tami had to stop for some reason so we were able to adopt her instead. Another example is with Nisha’s adoption story. See, Nisha was born with Aperts syndrome which, if not taken care of within a few years, can cause brain damage. Well, when we found Nisha she had been in the orphanage for 3 years and because of her syndrome no one wanted to take her. But for anyone who knows Nisha they know that she has one of the best personalities of anyone they have ever met, even with all that she has had to deal with. But the most obvious picture of God’s working is with Hannah’s adoption. My mom found Hannah’s referral in December when, Hannah was 13, and according to China’s adoption policy a child must be adopted by the age of 14 or they become ineligible. We started the process knowing that we only had 6 months to complete an adoption that usually takes over a year, but God worked it all out and we finished the process the day before she turned 14. While the others each have a unique adoption story Tami’s, Nisha’s and Hannah’s best illustrate how God worked to put my family together.